Stop crying!: I’m so sorry, it sounds stressful and exhausting.
Two things to try: 1. Repeat what you are going to say. If you have a friend laid back enough to play with you, then there’s your plan for an hour this weekend and a tune-up the day before; if you don’t have that friend (they’re quite rare) spend some time feeling silly in front of a mirror. Work on the phrasing, note the key points.
2. Make it the first thing you tell your doctor: “Be careful, I cry when I’m angry, upset, stressed, and during most confrontations. Please ignore it because I don’t want any distraction. “
So, short version, do what you can to prevent tears, then make room for them if they do occur anyway. Trying too hard to fight them often only makes them worse.
You haven’t asked for it, but: time for a new doctor?
Or this: make sure you have plenty of distractions for your free time between now and the date. Even if you were all for crying, you would have little to gain by persevering until next week. I hope the meeting is going well.
● You mentioned not wearing pants – you may have joked, but I have found that conversations with my documents go better if I am dressed. In fact, my gynecologist will not be having conversations in the examination room. He always gets me dressed and comes into his office for post-exam chat. Can you tell your doc that you prefer this? It would also give you a few minutes to pull yourself together and think about exactly what you want to say. It is also a way for you to regain some control of a situation that may seem totally out of your control.
● Write it down! Seriously – take notes now, when you are wearing your pants, wherever you are calm and clearly thinking about what to say. And then take your notes with you and refer to them often, even if you have to read them verbatim as if you had a script. On paper or on your phone.
I rarely trust my brain to remember everything I need to say to the doctor, or even the vet – it’s an inherently stressful environment with a fundamental imbalance of power. And take the time to put your pants back on, like someone mentioned, YES.
● If you press your tongue against the roof of your mouth, it will prevent you from crying. I don’t know why, but it works [for me]. Of course, you can’t talk either, but it’ll save you a few seconds to get a lasso on those tears.