Right before the pandemic, he suggested we finally meet in person, because my interviews had gone well, and even though they didn’t hire me for this position, he wanted to stay in touch.
We met for coffee and had a good chat. From a networking perspective, it was a success. He was also one of the nicest, most attractive men I’ve ever met – honestly, it was hard to concentrate.
I haven’t had any contact with him since, more than two years ago, and I was content to “match” online with him!
If he asked me, I’d be dating him in a heartbeat. But if he’s not interested, I don’t want to ruin a professional contact.
My choices are: I can’t do anything. I can block him so he can’t see my profile.
Or I could send her a “smile” or message through the app or email, acknowledging the match and indicating interest in a date, while simultaneously magically protecting future business contacts and not embarrassing me.
I think I’d rather try my luck with love than with a new job, but I feel so uncomfortable and so far out of my comfort zone. Maybe he has the exact same dilemma I have regarding professional and personal contacts.
on the fence: That’s a great question, and as it unfolds, we’ve either got the opening scene of a runaway workplace rom-com, a fantastic story to tell at your wedding, or a quasi – accident neutral but pleasant. I don’t really see any major downside for you.
In my opinion, the fact that – before the pandemic – this man chose to meet you in person after coordinating interviews (which did not result in employment), indicates some interest on his part.
Now that Cupid’s algorithm matches you, you can respond with a short note: “Hi. I remember meeting you for coffee back in the “before” days, and thank you again for meeting me that day. I finally found a job at Cybertech and have mostly worked remotely lately. Your interview coaching helped me! Are you still at TechBubble? I guess it had to happen to someone at some point, but honestly, I’ve never been paired up online with someone I’ve met IRL. Embarrassing, of course, but funny too.
That’s it. Leave him an answer.
dear Amy: I am an elderly grandmother with 10 step-grandchildren, the youngest of whom is 18 and in his first year of college.
This child receives a substantial scholarship from me for her university.
Of the 10 grandchildren, she is the only one who does not follow me on my cat’s Instagram account which has over 5,000 followers.
She follows her other grandmother on Instagram, which puzzles me.
Not that I’m begging for followers, but I think it’s a charitable and loving thing to do, especially when I’ve been generous and loving towards her.
I didn’t discuss it with his mother.
Am I wrong to think that would be a loving thing for her to do?
It’s just a chat account for Pete’s sake!
Grandmother: Yes, it’s just a chat account, for Pete’s sake.
And yet, to you, it doesn’t seem like just a chat account.
You were careful to mention your financial support for this granddaughter. Are you implying that you are buying subscribers? I hope not.
Ask your granddaughter, “Did you know ‘Muffin’ became an Instagram influencer? I would like you to follow the account. I have a lot of fun with it. »
It’s not fair for you to imply that this is the main way your granddaughter loves you.
It’s a way for her to love you, but it’s not the only one.
dear Amy: I liked your response to “Oddbut that didn’t go far enough. Estranged and his brother were dealing with a mother who had taken extraordinary steps to contact them.
I was surprised you didn’t mention the possibility of them getting an injunction. Their mother stalks them.
Was there: Several readers have mentioned it. Thank you all.
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