I’m asking for advice on how to deal with the constant trash talk and horrible rumors my ex spreads about me, as well as the dirty looks he gives me when I see him at school. What do you think I should do?
Annoyed: First of all, I applaud you for recognizing that your ex boyfriend was controlling and deciding to break off the relationship. I also want to warn you to take things a little slowly with your new guy, “Mr. Perfect.” You should extend the good and careful judgment you showed toward your ex to this new relationship. Tendency to view someone else as “perfect” might be what held you back for so long in your previous relationship. If he’s nice to you and your friends and loved ones like him, those are signs that he suits you well, but no one is perfect.
For now, I think it’s wiser for you to let the dust settle and avoid your ex altogether. Don’t react to him or engage in any skirmishes or social media drama regarding him. Get away from him as much as you can. At the same time, you need to set up a meeting with your school counselor to inform them exactly what your ex is doing. If he continues to harass you, and especially if it gets worse, adults should intervene.
Dear Amy: I am a girl in my late teens and my brother (late 20s) is getting married soon. I am the youngest of all the groom’s siblings. I haven’t been asked to be a chaperone – and that’s totally fine with me.
But I wonder if there is a role I should have in this marriage that I don’t know about? Should I offer to do something specific? I don’t want my brother and his fiancée to feel like they have to give me special work, but I would like to be helpful. Should I contact them to ask questions about this? I don’t want to create any weirdness.
Guest: Aside from introducing yourself as the world’s greatest flower girl (I actually think that’s a fun idea), you should assume that you’re a guest of honor.
As the date approaches, the couple might have tasks for you to do. You might anticipate this by saying (to both of you), “We’re all excited about your wedding!” I am here and available to help you with any last minute matters that arise. Don’t hesitate to give my number to your companions in case they need a helping hand. I am happy to participate.
Dear Amy: You are completely wrong in your response to “Loving husband“, who asked how to respond to his wife when she complains that her wrinkles make her look old. You accuse her of ignoring her own aging, when it doesn’t show and doesn’t matter anyway. ‘importance. All I see is him asking an honest question about how to respond to his wife.
Lighten. It may be fashionable these days to put men down, but maybe every once in a while you should listen to one and be a counselor and not be so negative towards husbands.
Dr. Michael R: I’ve heard several men think my answer to this question was harsh and sexist. In his question, “Loving Husband” was obviously sincerely searching for the right words to say to his wife, but he begins with this description: “To this day (when she wears makeup), she is still quite attractive. »
He then focuses on his aging and his wrinkles, but never mentions his own aging, without realizing how it might appear to him. The storyline I suggested focused on the relationship with her rather than judging her appearance.
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