If she (the granddaughter) asked me what I thought about this idea, I would honestly tell her that I disapprove for the simple reason that the body ink is mostly permanent, extremely painful, and complicated to remove.
But she didn’t ask for my opinion. It is, after all, his body and therefore does not concern me personally.
Yet, honestly, I don’t want her to get a tattoo. Neither now nor ever.
So what do you think of the idea of bribing her (along with her sister and cousin) so that you don’t have any?
I have in mind to tell the three girls that if they refrain from getting tattoos until, say, 30, I will give them a “bonus” to their inheritance (I think $ 10,000 each).
I would be careful to explain that this has nothing to do with love – I will love them anyway, of course – or “punishment”.
If they really want a tattoo, they should probably get one – but if they choose not to, or at least wait until they’re 30 (when I’m probably dead), I’ll reward them with to have made me happy.
Too much control: If you want to teach these cute girls to relate the concept of accepting (extremely generous) bribes to making personal choices, go ahead, knowing that there are possible unintended consequences.
For example, the next choices they might override you might be: whether to start smoking or engage in some other risky behavior that they know you might be willing to pay to avoid.
Corruption can also cause them to do whatever they want, just not telling you about it, to avoid disappointing you and their bank account.
I should add that technological advancements have apparently hit the ink world. There are now tattoo products that advertise themselves as “ephemeral,” designed to fade over a series of months, until they are completely gone.
You could suggest this idea to your granddaughter.
Dear Amy: My girlfriend and I have been living together for 10 years.
Every Mother’s Day, the same problem arises.
My mom is 86 and my girlfriend thinks that because my mom and I live in the same city I can see her anytime and should spend Mothers Day with her and her children (adults).
My mom is healthy, but she won’t be here forever and I think Mother’s Day should be spent with your mom.
She has raised her two children on her own and has done a wonderful job with two successful and well-rounded children who love her.
My girlfriend’s mother lives in another part of the country so it is not possible for her to spend Mother’s Day with her mother.
I have asked her and her children to join me, my brother and our mother for dinner, but she is not interested.
Ideally, we could all have dinner together, but that probably won’t happen.
ML: Using your girlfriend’s logic, you and she are living together – and because you can see her anytime, why should you make a special effort to see her on Mother’s Day?
In my opinion, anyone who selfishly denies their boyfriend’s desire to visit their elderly mother on Mother’s Day, and who also turns down an invitation to join, has their priorities set back completely.
Because you all live in the same town, if you are determined to make your girlfriend happy, the solution would be for you to split up in the middle (like a lot of people do on Mother’s and Father’s Day) and move on. time with your girlfriend and her kids during the day, then enjoy your dinner with your brother and mom later.
Dear Amy: I appreciate you asking so many questions about the relationship consequences that can result from DNA testing.
I want to warn you and your readers that actual DNA testing is quite complex and the results from these different companies can be wrong!
Was there: I am more and more satisfied with my decision not to have my own DNA tested.
All the unknown half-siblings will just have to find me.
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